Time to share something that's been on my heart...
It seems that a lot of people I know are dealing with loss. Loss of a job, relationship, loved one, dream, confidence. Loss of all kinds is still loss. And grief is still grief.
I went to dinner with a dear friend who asked me how I was dealing with the loss of my dad because she was going to lose someone close to her and she didn't know how to do it.
How do you deal with loss?
First, admit that "it" is gone. That may be your father, your job, your fiancee, your dream. Whatever it is, let it go. Acknowledge that someone or something you cared deeply about is gone. And you are forever changed.
I walked around for a few weeks saying to Hubby, "I can't believe my dad is gone." But when I finally starting saying "I miss my dad", healing began to take place.
Second, you will never be "back to normal". Recognize that, embrace that and find your new normal. Experiences like this change each person, make sure it changes you for the better.
One of the verses I cling to is Romans 8:28 28 And we know that God causes everything to work together[a] for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.
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God WILL use this for good! Think of times in your past that you have lost something or someone else, I know you can think of a way that your life was changed for the better because of it.
Third, we cannot grieve forever. That is not to say that there won't be moments or days when we will have sorrow. But we cannot remain there. I have known people who have wrapped themselves in their grief. They need to feel bad and they need others to feel bad for them. That is not life! Do you want to be known as "the poor person who lost ___"? No you do not. Life is bigger than loss, life is bigger than grief.
There are those who live in fear that this will happen again and if they just stay wrapped in this one grief than they can't be hurt again. 2 Timothy 1:7 saysFor God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.
We must cast off the spirit of fear and move forward in power and love and self-discipline.
What does self-discipline have to do with grief? It is easy to say "Woe is me!" and wrap ourselves in grief. But it requires self-discipline to say, "God, I KNOW you will use this for good. Show me the good!" and to look for it, and to trust that it is there.
Finally, there is a future. Kiddo1's life verse is Jeremiah 29:11For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.